For example, if someone mentions they love the summer, ask what they love about it. If they tell you they’re having a rough week, ask why that is. If someone mentions they’ve been playing video games all day, ask what game they’re playing and what’s so fun about it. You can even go a level deeper: Do they consider themselves a serious gamer or a casual gamer? What’s the first game they couldn’t stop playing? If you find the conversation comes to a lull, or you’re just trying to strike up some interesting conversation, here are some ideas for questions to ask a guy or anyone you’re interested in. With her warm, playful approach to coaching and facilitation, Kelly creates refreshingly candid spaces for processing and healing challenges around dating, sexuality, identity, body image, and relationships. She’s particularly enthusiastic about helping softhearted women get re-energized around the dating experience and find joy in the process of connecting with others. She believes relationships should be easy—and that, with room for self-reflection and the right toolkit, they can be. You can stay in the loop about her latest programs, gatherings, and other projects through her newsletter: kellygonsalves.com/newsletter
