That’s based on observations from 500 heterosexual couples from five different countries. And yet, the concern of “lasting long enough” in bed plays on the minds of many men. The fear of orgasming at a pace deemed “too fast” can create a lot of anxiety. Images of having sex all night long loom large. The truth is, there’s no easy answer when it comes to how long sex should last. But if you’re keen to try to extend your stamina, here are a bunch of ways to last longer in bed. There are many edging techniques, but here are a few options for folks with penises to try with or without a partner: “The pelvic floor is just below the prostate and the rectum. The PC muscle is located there,” Adolphe explains. “With age these muscles, like any other muscles, can become weak, but they can be strengthened through pelvic floor exercise. The PC muscle surrounds the prostate, through which your semen passes during ejaculation. If the PC muscles are too weak, it may be harder for you to delay your ejaculation.” For instance, you could practice orgasm denial, a form of power play in which you cede control over when you will come to your partner. A way to do this can be that your partner (consensually) will not “allow” you to receive any form of stimulating touch until you’ve satisfied them. “The impact of depression, anger, low self-esteem, poor body image, and adherence to rigid gender ideals can absolutely impair the quality of an erection,” she says. “A sex therapist can help in crafting a plan with you to explore these areas.” “Focus less on performance,” Brito says. “Make it about pleasure.”
