If it’s not motivated by true affection, it’s not true friendship. What motivates the “frenemy” relationship? These typically happen when someone wants to get close to you because they admire things about your life or who they think you are—but it’s not a selfless admiration. It’s more akin to envy. For me, being able to get real, support each other, and be happy for each other regardless of what may or may not be going well in our own lives, are the essential parts of friendship. We can choose our own relationship values. Each of us has the power and the right to define what makes a friend. Friendships are a huge part of life, so giving real thought to what you want and need from your friendships is absolutely worthwhile. Having clarity on what friendship means to you empowers you to have a real conversation if something feels wrong in one of your relationships. Only then can you work out whether you’re still in it together despite any inevitable ups and downs, or understand that you never really were. Want more insights on how to level up your life? Check out your June horoscope, then find out if you’re meeting your emotional needs (and how you can do it better).
