Wouldn’t you want your partner to tell you if there was a way you could blow their mind? If you said, “Hell yes!” you can bet that your partner feels the exact same way. This reticence is not serving either of you. So get comfortable with getting a little uncomfortable. A few moments of minor awkwardness can lead to a lifetime of enhanced pleasure. Instead, start a loving conversation at a time when you’re both feeling comfortable and connected…and clothed! Maybe you do so over dinner, when you’re out for a walk, or during a date. That way, you will be able to give your partner the space and stress-free environment they need to process and respond to your request without feeling pressured. Your partner is not a mind reader. So if you would like them to go faster or slower, harder or softer, you need to speak up and tell them—or give them a helping hand and show them. Your best bet? Forgive them for their forgetfulness, surrender to the moment, and commit to having a conversation later on in a less pressure-filled situation…preferably when you’re both clothed and thinking clearly. Only you can be the judge of this, but listen to your intuition. It’s your strongest guiding force, and it’s rarely wrong when it comes to matters of the heart. Looking for more juicy details on how to craft soulful relationships? Check out Melissa’s upcoming book, Open Wide and peep her mbg class: How To Manifest Your Dream Life. (Um, yes please.) In her signature straight-talking style, Ambrosini teaches women how to unlock their full potential, master their inner Mean Girl, smash through limiting beliefs, and ditch the self-doubt so that they can start living the life of their dreams. Named a ‘self-help guru’ by Elle Magazine her mission is to inspire women to create a heart-centered life—one that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy and bursting with love.
