I think we’ve been going about it the wrong way for a very long time. Here’s what it means to have spiritual, sacred sex. If you are in the flow of expressive sex, then you know that God must have a hand in it. And creativity is about spiritual communion. Sex is a core function of humanity. It plays a huge role in the physical health and vitality of the body. Sex is also an immense, universal force that can merge your spirit (your divine essence) with your body. Sex is involution (spirit descending) and evolution (physical ascending) meeting at the heart in an explosion of pure love. But to fully experience sex in this divine way, we have to engage in it in a divine forum. It’s an objectification of form, mired in fantasy, watched from the sidelines as a “spectator” through porn and taking for granted the warm, human flesh we connect with. While this widely used approach will surely produce an orgasm, it can be animalistic and short (22 seconds on average). Experiencing sex this way takes us away from the present. The present is the only truth there really is. It takes us outside of ourselves, when, really, the holy grail—sex as communion with the soul—is a possibility that exists within us any time, all the time. Why is sex the most coveted experience in modern-day culture? Because we seek this connection with the divine. Because it allows us to transcend ourselves in a way no other experience does. We know there is the potential for sex to be transformational and life-changing. We’ve been expecting way too little of sex for a very long time. It’s a massively powerful energy. And it has more potential than we realize to be a force for the amazing in our lives. What if sex, experienced as sacred, could open a field of intimacy in your relationship with your lover that you never knew existed? Recognize sex as part of this spirituality. Feeling guilty or embarrassed? Please don’t. Sex is fantastic, wonderful, amazing, natural, wild, erotic, and awesome. With consenting partners and within the realms of both people’s boundaries, sex should occur freely. Embrace the act of sex as worship of your partner and a sacred representation of the divine—no matter how different you imagine these things to be. You get out of it what you put into it. Exercise your devotion muscle. Fake it till you make it. Adorn your body with oils, style your hair, wear makeup that makes you feel your best, and even put on jewelry if it makes you feel more spiritually centered. Wear a piece of clothing sacred to this space, this act—a robe, a slip, or something else you feel prepares your body and spirit to meet. Join your third eyes together, breathing for six inhales and six exhales. Take turns anointing each other with essential oils like sandalwood and rose. Place the oil on each other’s crown, third eye, heart space, and genitals. Remember, being fully in the moment during sex means having a total awareness of our being right now. Practice looking into each other’s eyes. Stay in the feeling of each moment. Drop into the visceral feeling of this experience. If you’re not sure where to begin, consider incorporating tantric sex practices. Tantra is a sexual practice that beautifully merges sex and spirituality. (Here’s a beginner’s guide to tantric sex.) Peace, om, shanti. Through embracing a plant-based diet complemented by a deep meditation practice, Julie Piatt healed herself of a large cyst in her neck, which doctors diagnosed as an incurable ailment. This experience gave her an intimate connection to food and proved to her the miraculous ability of the body to heal itself when supported with pure whole living foods and a connection to the soul.
